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FluffyClouds - 01 Aug, 2024 - 04:24PM

Funguy77 -

I think you've mentioned it on the forum...but a few do bring it up in direct messages. I've found it's the ones who aren't having much luck tbh and are perplexed that they have paid and lack their envisaged returns...in their mind

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Funguy77 - 01 Aug, 2024 - 02:05PM

Fluffy

That’s quite the list have listened all the red flags lol
I’ll admit to one of the items in your list 🤦‍♂️

I do complain about the cost but I’m not sure if I have done this in my messages perhaps one or two of the lovely ladies I have messages can help there or am I asking for trouble lol

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FluffyClouds - 01 Aug, 2024 - 01:35PM

Red Flags for me on messages:

* They say they've got a great sense of humour, yet are so dull, miserable and unengaging in their messages - show your humour 🤷

* They say they have integrity and treat other people with respect, yet show you the opposite in messages

* Ghosters who come back - no thanks, you thought you found better, you realised you didn't that's your problem

* Claiming 'my membership is about to end'

* Complaining about how unfair it is that men have to pay - bitter from the word go

* Unsolicited dick pic in profile pics with no warning or asking if that's acceptable first for a start, it's what it's attached to that matters most

* Flakey behaviour - can't produce a day to meet

* Lack of confidence, putting themselves down

* Arrogance and pomposity

I could go on...IE is the gift that keeps on giving

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Enigma.. - 01 Aug, 2024 - 10:24AM

@Funguy77

I’ve got some tales to tell about males on this site.
Perhaps I should write a book 🤔😂.
Naturally all names would be changed to protect the NOT so innocent lol.

Looks like you had a lucky escape.

I got messaged by a male in January who admitted he was still having sex with his wife.
He also had a lover who he was getting bored with but he didn’t want to dump her.
He was looking for someone who was more fun, exciting and stimulating.

I think I’ve heard every reason and excuse now lol 😂😉.

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Funguy77 - 01 Aug, 2024 - 10:03AM

Enigma

No bitch about it that’s exactly how I feel.

Just touching on content below Last year this happened to me after what I would consider a lengthy courtship with my new IE and after we sealed the deal it was dropped in to the conversation that she was still sleeping with husband that’s obviously something you consider but then she mentioned the BOSS 😱 now I believe sharing is caring but sexual safety was on my mind it never crossed my mind to ask how many partners do you have right now. Needles to say i ended it there.

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Enigma.. - 01 Aug, 2024 - 09:00AM

Apologies but what I’m about to post will probably make me sound like a biatch.
Having an affair is a wonderful experience when it’s working well.
When I get involved with someone I know that feelings and emotions are going to be involved too.
However… I know to keep “certain” feelings, should they happen to appear, in check and not to overstep the mark.
And I would expect the same from my Ie.
Any female/male who gets to heavily involved and is prepared to leave their spouse and children should not be on this site.
They are not emotionally mature enough to handle an affair.
Having an affair is not like some romcom film where everyone gets their happily ever after 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️.
Also females/males who ask their “potential” IE’s?
Is she prettier than me? Is she more intelligent than me? Etc….
Seriously… get a grip 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️.
Once again not emotionally intelligent enough and appears to have jealousy issues and should not be on the site 🙄.
Don’t compare

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Paula99 - 01 Aug, 2024 - 05:33AM

Superguy2023…

You will not be surprised but there are lots of guys that want to see multiple partners…you are right it’s not for everyone but it’s got nothing to do with class…class is something that is inbred and it can’t be taken away…
Your model lady from Chester was clear and honest about what she wanted ….exclusivity not being the operative word …she could have lied to you seen other guys anyway.
We are all here for different reasons …also not everyone is good at creative writing concerning their profile…some are over written ….sometimes less is more 😁

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1689233 - 31 Jul, 2024 - 09:45PM

Red flag before any convo is an auto generated or low effort profile. If you can't be arsed to take time over your profile are you carrying that energy into an affair?

Convo red flags, someone making little effort to show interest in who you are, someone who doesn't bring their best self to the party regardless of what is going in in their lives, someone who isn't self reflective and blames their spouse for all marital issues.

The list goes on, and this domain is littered full of the above.

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EmnEm123 - 31 Jul, 2024 - 09:26PM

Superguy2023

Was she married?

1623782 - 31 Jul, 2024 - 08:48PM

Red flags for me are when the lady I’m chatting with openly admits to seeing a couple of other guys.! One of the prettiest girls( model from Chester) I’ve met but talked about the other guys she’s currently seeing. Wanted to see me again after we met for a coffee but I couldn’t carry on and told her that the others were a red flag for me. I got lots of messages saying that she doesn’t see them that often and I was her preferred choice but it completely put me off. For me it was about class. There was none there 🤦‍♂️

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