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Playboy999 - 02 Jan, 2025 - 12:18PM

Go for it!
Just be open and honest with the other party. Do things at your own pace and just see where things go

Clickable Connection - 02 Jan, 2025 - 09:43AM

Celery - if you have guilt now , then I'm thinking this isn't for you. Maybe you like the idea more than the actual act ?

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Celery - 02 Jan, 2025 - 09:05AM

I fully understand I have recently joined and am full of doubts, I think I need the intimacy for the right reasons but how do I stop the guilt I feel just logging on.

cultured but dirty - 02 Jan, 2025 - 08:56AM

I think that whatever you do end-up doing, you can only really control your own approach to the affair. My advice would be to treat your IE with utmost respect and courtesy before, during and after.
You won't know if its right for you until you have done it, but if, having done it, you feel it isn't something that works for you then at least you will have behaved considerately. If you do decide it hasn't worked, then a phone call or a message on whatever platform you communicate on is the way to end it.
Wish you lots of luck and success, hopefully it all works out. I remember the pre-match nerves before my first affair but have since had two particularly joyous long term affairs that have ended on very good terms and with lots of respect. Good luck! :-)

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DiscoBobulate - 01 Jan, 2025 - 11:55PM

Test him, tease him, reject him. If he keeps returning for more, kiss him and see if his lips transport you to another universe.

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DiscoBobulate - 01 Jan, 2025 - 11:52PM

Don’t just submit to any old bloke. You may feel the need to just choose your first option. Don’t. However desperate you are, you need to vet your options. Choosing nobody is far more beneficial than just choosing anyone.

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Here we go 693 - 01 Jan, 2025 - 04:07PM

Paula99

Fair comment, it takes some amount of planning and commitment to keep an affair going. Also an understanding that shit happens and sometimes your best laid plans go horribly wrong.

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Paula99 - 01 Jan, 2025 - 12:07PM

BerkshireBiker…

It’s ok just saying that …but most in here don’t have the emotional intelligence/maturity/logistics/time to actually carry it out….they just think they do 😕

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BerkshireBiker - 01 Jan, 2025 - 07:55AM

Once you have accepted and come to terms with your decision, it then comes down to carrying it out as efficiently and skilfully so as to protect and not hurt anyone. All that should remain are positive experiences and chapters in people’s journeys.

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Purple dreamer - 31 Dec, 2024 - 08:13AM

Life is to short for iffing and umming

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