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Seany52 - 15 May, 2020 - 06:50PM

Go for it !! I did was best four years of my life !!!!

1329251 - 15 May, 2020 - 06:26PM

Never, but I don't meet til I'm 100% certain, which takes a lot of chat and friendship building. Takes longer but better results if you ask me. I don't rush into anything these days x not as naive as I used to be!! Lol
(sorry gentlemen!)

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1382044 - 15 May, 2020 - 05:08PM

Until recently I have always been nervous about meeting my IE though we have been meeting since last November. This is not through fear of getting caught as we are most careful. I have told him and he knows I am socially shy and just tells me not to be nervous.

And yes was always nervous about any first dates. A mixture of excitement and nervousness.

However that is not the same as being afraid of getting caught. There are several online websites which lay down the criteria for not getting caught.

I would never stand anyone up but if I didn't want to take it further I would say so at the first meet and expect them to do the same.

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ExoticOrchid - 15 May, 2020 - 04:53PM

I can honestly say I have never had cold feet after arranging a first meet.

However, I have had regrets after agreeing to meet BUT never, ever, stood anyone up because of that … I have always gone through with it.

Unfortunately, the same can't be said for some of the men who only came up with a ridiculous excuse when asked to confirm. That is just as insulting as not turning up.

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AAGilfan - 15 May, 2020 - 04:47PM

Sportster - there is always potential for things to come to light, sometimes in a manner that you just could not have predicted. There is always sod's law of wrong time, wrong place. As for that particular escapade, I can confirm that it was actually definitely worth it for what had gone before and, in reality, you have to accept that there is always some kind of risk involved, you just have to try to manage it as best you can and not be reckless

1385386 - 15 May, 2020 - 04:40PM

I've met a few women who I met online back in my single days. Those were pretty nervy experiences even without the problem of being caught! They worked out pretty well though.

Tailormade80 - 15 May, 2020 - 04:35PM

After arranging a meet.....it always raises the adrenaline and the levels of expectation become real all of a sudden. I don't think there is justification in standing someone up.......ever but I have to admit that in the past if I didn't fancy someone after a first date......I would rather tell someone over the phone than meet again but that call should definitely made. It's just manners.

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851951 - 15 May, 2020 - 04:25PM

Tara405
What do you mean? You can’t meet now

Teresa di Vicenzo - 15 May, 2020 - 04:13PM

Good move changing your User Name. The original one was very off putting; There are so many adolescent-type names on this site. I wish the men could see us ladies eye roll when we see them. I wouldn’t even open a message received from someone with such a name.

I agree with what’s been said, plan, plan and plan some more before your first meet with anyone. Be sure to have exchanged photos (recent, and in colour 🙄) and lots of messages so that first face to face meet isn’t a shock. I once met a gentleman who claimed to be 8 years older than me. I met him for coffee and thought he looked a bit ‘different’ from what I remembered of the photo. He claimed to be very successful in property so I googled him when I got home. He was, but he was also 20 years older than me. His photo was quite an old one, in B&W and photoshopped 🙄. I asked him about his age by text. I never heard from him again! I actually found it all hilarious, but be honest with your intended, it was the fact he’d lied which

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1117169 - 15 May, 2020 - 04:02PM

Getting cold feet is ok.

Standing someone up is definitely not ok.

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