When should you end it?
So, you have been seeing your perfect affair partner for a few months and then you notice that what was once a steamy affair with both parties being really into it, is now just like your relationship with your OH with you trying your best to keep them interested and constantly wondering if you are actually ‘one of many’ after-all.
Yes, they show up for their ‘once per week’ as promised, but whereas before they would stay a while, they are out the door straight away due to ‘work commitments’!
Is now the time to part ways? This is exactly what is missing, necessitating the need for an affair in the first place!
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HappyJoe46 - 19 Jul, 2024 - 03:37PM
I was in dialogue with a lady for 3 months met her once and we had sex. The proximity of where we lived meant we just couldn’t meet up. Last week she dumped me. I am gutted.
She is trying again with her husband.
I guess my question is how do you not get attached? I am not the type to just want sex. Any advice please
Amandi1712 - 09 Jul, 2024 - 07:33PM
I would say this and from experience. There are phases to this.
1. Connecting - 3 months
2. Exploring - 3 months
3. Passion - 6 months
4. Enjoying each other 12 months
After two years you either stay together because you enjoy each. The sex on its own will not it together. If you are not feeling it then leave
Happyhooker27 - 09 Jul, 2024 - 06:13PM
Why has it become stale, do you not share interests out side of the bedroom.
Jonnydieppe - 05 Jul, 2024 - 08:35PM
I’m still waiting for a reply that’s not a bot or a wife looking for their husband. Shocking place to find people to chat to.
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rarity23 - 05 Jul, 2024 - 12:06PM
If it's not working anymore for either of you then far better to have that conversation and end it rather than make excuses.
Everyone looks for different things out of an affair though, and it can be hard to find that person on the same page .
We do enough lying to our spouses, no need to lie to your IE as well !
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1667997 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 11:48AM
Time to end it.
I've had two kind of endings here - firstly she wanted me to leave my wife.... secondly as you say, it just became a ho hum experience. Either way that's not why we're here - Politely move on!
GioLuca - 02 Jul, 2024 - 10:21PM
Seems pretty obvious. End it immediately. You're not having an affair to replicate your relationship. Plenty more fish in this pond.
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Paula99 - 02 Jul, 2024 - 08:01PM
When you are in a long term affair at least over a year ….you are both different people to when you first began the relationship…you have got over the ‘honeymoon’ period….you have nurtured and grown your affair ….you have a meaningful passionate connection and trust your lover completely..
If you can say after that period of time that you don’t develop deeper feelings for each other…it’s a load of bollox …your lover becomes your friend and confidant and support network ….
Clinical sex just makes you feel like shite and that’s why we are all here because we want intimacy/passion/lust and everything that goes with it …
Davek268…I hear you and sadly your lover turned out to be a bunny boiler but to say you had no feelings before it all crashed ……hmmmmm 🧐
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