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AsianGent1986 - 02 Jul, 2024 - 02:52PM

At the OP. It very much depends on what you were seeking from the affair and whether you were both clear on expectations. Sounds to me like you wanted a relationship to provide you what you believe was lacking from your OH, he wanted passion and sex without the trappings of a relationship. Neither set of wants is wrong but they certainly don’t accord with one another.

Time for a conversation me thinks to rebase expectations and at the end of it, decide whether to end it. Its an affair, therefore you should be getting what you want.

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1408586 - 02 Jul, 2024 - 09:47AM

Did you not have feelings beyond a physical connection after an 18 month passionate affair DaveK268?

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Knightoflove69 - 01 Jul, 2024 - 11:00PM

I'm very new here, but most of us are looking for that connection again. Physical excitement and emotional charge. If the flinge has become a chore then why have two weights dragging you down.

JeanPaul78 - 01 Jul, 2024 - 07:58PM

We’re all Here for the same reasons (ish)…… when the spark goes and the chemistry dies it’s time to move on ………. Hopefully to find it again ….. I’ve been lucky on here twice ……. 15 months is a good stint for an affair I think …

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EmnEm123 - 01 Jul, 2024 - 07:00PM

Fintimes1976

If you message and the recipient looks at your profile but doesn't respond, she's not interested.

You can take that as a sign to "move on".

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Fintimes1976 - 01 Jul, 2024 - 03:31PM

Why is that when a woman looks at your profile after you’ve sent them a message not a VK , you don’t get a reply , even a “not for me thanks” would be good just so I know to move on as I don’t do having lots of chats on the go at the same time ,I’m a man and obviously can’t multi task , apart from certain ttimes

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YourSecretLover - 01 Jul, 2024 - 02:03PM

I've never had this issue, maybe I'm lucky, but, we both agree, and agree to move on, a grown up but polite conversation, usually ending with a final fling of bed gymnastics.

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mogordon - 30 Jun, 2024 - 07:41PM

I’ve had this experience. The partner in question stopped being a girlfriend after a few months and became a once a week “fuck buddy” who had to rush off for “work commitments” etc. before finally ending it. Definitely a sign of a relationship in trouble.

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Entry fun - 20 Jun, 2024 - 09:57AM

The sex is actually important. Leave if you’re not feeling the vibe anymore

Sportygirl99 - 17 Jun, 2024 - 08:53PM

Yes end it as soon as the excitement to meet is no longer there !

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